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Gordzilla's avatar

I find the idea of the explicitly expressed values combined with the status penalty to be very helpful, not just in terms of understanding the dynamics of churches and organizations, but also in more personal terms, particularly in looking for a potential spouse. I've known numerous Christian guys who married women who either drifted leftward and ended up leaving them, or who drifted leftward and ended up dragging the husband leftward or effectively neutralizing him, even if he retained conservative convictions.

One of the things that strikes me about these women is that many of them grew up in Christian homes and were part of the Christian subculture, where they met the their husbands (ie. in Christian colleges or bible colleges, in youth group, etc.), and their faith was more tacit then explicit, a product of their upbringing and social surroundings more than an explicit choice. As a result, they weren't necessarily grounded in something they had explicitly chosen and counted the cost of. This made it easier to drift, especially when the difficulties of life and marriage came.

By contrast, I've realized that one of the things I need to look for in a potential spouse is an explicit commitment to the truth of the gospel and an understanding and owning of the costs of following Jesus. Nothing is guaranteed in this world, but someone like that is probably less likely to drift in the face of cultural pressure, the difficulties of marriage, false teaching in the church, and other struggles of life. This is already something I had come to believe, but this post gave me a new and helpful language for expressing it.

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Ronald Keith's avatar

As H.L. Mencken wrote in "The Baltimore Evening Sun" on July 26, 1920 the following. "As democracy is perfected, the office of the President represents, more and more closely, the inner soul of the people. On some great and glorious day, the plain folks of the land will reach their heart's desire at last, and the White House will be occupied by a downright fool and a complete narcissistic moron."

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