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Duncan's avatar

Useful article. I started a book club with three other guys and we meet monthly (it has now grown to five men in total). That has become the core of my friendship group. I also joined a whisky Club, which I go to with the same former colleague each month, so it ensures we remain friends because we have a guaranteed meet up each month. I would like to just arrange a fortnightly coffee with one or two guys, with no other "purpose", but it could seem kind of weird. I'll have to think my way around it. I was thinking of starting an "Adventure Club" which has to meet once a month, and do some kind of weekend activity. I think men tend to be more comfortable meeting to "do something".

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Matt Jamison's avatar

I went down a YouTube rabbit hole on amateur radio during covid and became a licensed ham two years ago. There are a lot of ham radio clubs near me in the Dallas suburbs, they exist mostly to maintain "repeaters" that boost signals, essentially making your radio a supercharged CB.

What I'm surprised by is what a great social network this plugged me into. It's mostly retired guys, with a definite nerd streak, and 95% male though the women are treated with equal camaraderie. The older guys are extremely generous with their know-how and also with their tools and equipment. There are sub hobbies within ham radio that involve man-portable camping operations and even mountain climbing.

Best part? Political and religious pontificating is frowned upon, even while emergency prepardness is definitely a thing. For most of my new friends, I can't tell you if they are Democrat or Republican. A couple of Saturdays ago I hung out with a couple of guys installing mobile radios in our cars, drinking beer, and enjoying each other's company. I haven't enjoyed myself so much in the company of men since I was in college. The guys I was hanging out with mentioned that he'd had few good guy friends before (recently) getting into ham radio.

Five years ago I never would have imagined myself becoming one of those guys.

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