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Benjamin L. Mabry's avatar

This is one of those debates that I think we're dancing around the point, and it's wasting everyone's time. It's like with the "calling to singleness" nonsense that we're hearing. Nobody denies that several calls to unmarried service to the church can be found in scripture. People who feel that they need to devote themselves full-time to church service should be honored for that calling. But the bad-faith world-worshippers equivocate that call to service into a calling to single hedonism, and try to claim that there's a calling to throw yourself into careerism, luxury cars, and foreign vacations.

Careerism is a serious problem for modern Americans. Lots of people put too much of their self-worth and identity into their job. I'm not too proud to confess that I've fallen victim to that. I spent a lot of time during the COVID shutdowns feeling sorry for myself for getting laid off and justifying bad choices on the grounds that "professor" was my whole identity and if I couldn't be that I wouldn't be anything. So when we say "women have callings other than mother/wife", we need to specify that one of those callings isn't mere careerist ambition and pride. It's not ladder-climbing for its own sake. And most importantly of all, "calling" is not an excuse to neglect unwanted duties. I let bad things happen to my children, and I violated what I thought were fundamental principles of mine to mope around in self-pity because I was caught up in careerist attitudes.

Women who use "calling" as a dodge to avoid unwanted responsibility are in the wrong, just as I was in the wrong during the COVID shutdowns to neglect my family and bury my talent. We need to confront the people who are using this argument in bad-faith to justify hedonistic attitudes and secular status-chasers, and clarify the fact that God never calls people in ways that contradict what he's already revealed. My experience is that whenever someone gets too invested in a calling to a particular title, it's a sign that this isn't a calling but an ambition.

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Bill Marty's avatar

Hi Aaron,

I meant to comment on your earlier piece: There are more traditional female archetypes than wife and mother. A few come to mind: nurse, teacher (I'm thinking primary school here), librarian. You mention king on the male side. I'm guessing that as long as we've had kings, we've had queens, and they aren't always accessories to the king. It was the Queen of Sheba that visited King Solomon. I don't think there was a King of Sheba waiting for her when she returned home. Your argument is an excellent one. Including a few more traditional female roles won't diminish it.

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