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Tim's avatar
Sep 5Edited

This article points out something that hits home with my family. All of the men in my family are blue collar metal fabricators. Some work in constructing sheds, others work in factories. The men. The men in my family start off doing ok. My grandpa was married with children, owned his own home in a suburb close to his work, which included white collar people (although there was a lot of public housing around also). My dad and uncles all do the same line of work, but had to move a long way from their home area to some where else and commute to get to work. But they still managed to have a job for life, own their own home and raise a family. My brother has a job, but its not permanent and he lives in my parents garage. There's a lot of alcohol and even drugs have become something in my family, which weren't part of my dad or grandpa's lives. my brother and I have had our own battles with suicide. It seems like the blue collar men in my family follow this graph. A big difference though, I believe is that I have finished highschool and have a master's degree. It makes me look at the world with a series of options for what I can do and what I can learn. I think my blue collar background has made me go down many potholes in my professional career due to genuinely not understanding or having the people skills to communicate with professional people, but I have learnt from my mistakes and now I'm improving each day. My brother on the other hand all I can guess is that he sees the world as a series of deadends with no way out signs. He has no goals, and does not feel he has the capacity to achieve those goals if he tried. His wants and needs are like any other man, a stable job, the capacity to buy a house, to meet a good woman and have a family. I don't have any answers because even though were from the same background, we treading two different paths.

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Ryan Michaels's avatar

Get a skill, get a job, keep a job, and don't have a kid till you are married. The wealthiest members of my extended family never went to college, or if they attended, did not graduate. What they did do was get a trade, show up sober to work, and get married prior to having kids.

Their kids have gotten a trade (often the same), are all engaged or married (all married prior to having a kid) and are now far better off financially than myself, a professor at a small university. This ain't rocket science, I just cant imagine for the life of me why we don't talk about this stuff in schools and families growing up, and why this is not explicitly preached from the pulpit in every church in America.

I would love to see this WC men data broken down by career, I have a hard time believing the data is nearly as pessimistic for plumbers and electricians as it is for those working in service jobs or the consistently unemployed.

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