These liberal white women complaining about dating are likely only interested in soy boy liberal men. This would explain why they keep encountering wishy-washy, therapy-speaking, non-aggressive dudes.
It seems like this progressive women-whining comes primarily from the same old tired left wing news media like the NYT. If people are getting their social and cultural cues from them then they are already predisposed to this nonsense and will suffer the consequences.
>There’s an element of truth in this. Way too many men don’t have friends, and rely on women as emotional supports. This actually isn’t healthy for romantic relationships. Your wife should not be your therapist. Many men do need to get more male friends (or maybe even an actual therapist).
I'm a little surprised at the therapist advice. Aaron, not sure if you've spoken to your thoughts on therapy before. Most guys on the right seem to have a pretty negative opinion of it.
Speaking to both these points:
My first girlfriend after college dumped me in part because I didn't have any real friends in the place I then-lived. Which seemed harsh at the time. But I get it now.
I took it pretty hard, in part because she represented my entire social life. After moping around and struggling to bounce back for a few months, I decided to see a therapist. Who was a devout and wise Baptist gentleman about 35 years my senior. Great conversations. I saw him for about 6 months, developed perspective, figured some things out, felt better, and we both agreed it was time for me to move on.
I think this was probably pretty close to the Platonic ideal of what therapy should be. And based on what I hear, it might be pretty atypical. Though I don't really know.
I'm glad you had good luck with therapy. I don't think it should be the first recourse, but can be a good choice for people without someone else of high quality to talk to about their problems.
There is substantial evidence of direct anti-male bias in hiring from numerous studies - I had substantially more luck changing my resume name from "James" to "Jamie"
If you get an interview wouldn't that anti-male bias still come into play?
My experience is that female managers are very adverse to hiring any man older than themselves. Pretty much any manager who hired me was a guy, excepting one when I was fresh out of college. Oh and a foreign (Filippino) woman who gave me an offer I didn't take.
Re: With each new class after 2020, an ever-smaller share of graduates is landing jobs that require a bachelor’s degree, according to a Burning Glass Institute analysis of labor data.
If this is due to AI I suspect it's less because AI is replacing people as it is due to the use of sophisticated resume scanning AI tools. Instead of just checking for key words and indications that the applicant has the necessary skills and education, resume analysis nowadays seems fine-tuned to find reasons why a candidate for a job would not perform well. This is a problem for everyone, including highly experienced people. The very fact that someone is looking for a job at all is taken as a reason that something must be wrong with the applicant. If working already, why aren't satisfied where they're at-- they must be a malcontent! If not working they must have been let go with cause no matter what the actual facts of it.
I tried to tell my progressive sister (whom I love and is one of the kindest people I know) that men were in trouble. She flat-out denied it. She cited all the progressive arguments. One of them is that her sons are doing fine (which they are). That is one of the problems with progressivism. Even if your own life is good, you still fall for all the c--p.
These liberal white women complaining about dating are likely only interested in soy boy liberal men. This would explain why they keep encountering wishy-washy, therapy-speaking, non-aggressive dudes.
It seems like this progressive women-whining comes primarily from the same old tired left wing news media like the NYT. If people are getting their social and cultural cues from them then they are already predisposed to this nonsense and will suffer the consequences.
>There’s an element of truth in this. Way too many men don’t have friends, and rely on women as emotional supports. This actually isn’t healthy for romantic relationships. Your wife should not be your therapist. Many men do need to get more male friends (or maybe even an actual therapist).
I'm a little surprised at the therapist advice. Aaron, not sure if you've spoken to your thoughts on therapy before. Most guys on the right seem to have a pretty negative opinion of it.
Speaking to both these points:
My first girlfriend after college dumped me in part because I didn't have any real friends in the place I then-lived. Which seemed harsh at the time. But I get it now.
I took it pretty hard, in part because she represented my entire social life. After moping around and struggling to bounce back for a few months, I decided to see a therapist. Who was a devout and wise Baptist gentleman about 35 years my senior. Great conversations. I saw him for about 6 months, developed perspective, figured some things out, felt better, and we both agreed it was time for me to move on.
I think this was probably pretty close to the Platonic ideal of what therapy should be. And based on what I hear, it might be pretty atypical. Though I don't really know.
I'm glad you had good luck with therapy. I don't think it should be the first recourse, but can be a good choice for people without someone else of high quality to talk to about their problems.
There is substantial evidence of direct anti-male bias in hiring from numerous studies - I had substantially more luck changing my resume name from "James" to "Jamie"
Jamie Foxx did it, too!
If you get an interview wouldn't that anti-male bias still come into play?
My experience is that female managers are very adverse to hiring any man older than themselves. Pretty much any manager who hired me was a guy, excepting one when I was fresh out of college. Oh and a foreign (Filippino) woman who gave me an offer I didn't take.
There's a problem with men being emotionally intimate with one another: It's seen as gay even if there's no sexual aspect to it.
I agree men need male friends, but that can't just be someone to have a beer and watch a game with.
Re: With each new class after 2020, an ever-smaller share of graduates is landing jobs that require a bachelor’s degree, according to a Burning Glass Institute analysis of labor data.
If this is due to AI I suspect it's less because AI is replacing people as it is due to the use of sophisticated resume scanning AI tools. Instead of just checking for key words and indications that the applicant has the necessary skills and education, resume analysis nowadays seems fine-tuned to find reasons why a candidate for a job would not perform well. This is a problem for everyone, including highly experienced people. The very fact that someone is looking for a job at all is taken as a reason that something must be wrong with the applicant. If working already, why aren't satisfied where they're at-- they must be a malcontent! If not working they must have been let go with cause no matter what the actual facts of it.
I tried to tell my progressive sister (whom I love and is one of the kindest people I know) that men were in trouble. She flat-out denied it. She cited all the progressive arguments. One of them is that her sons are doing fine (which they are). That is one of the problems with progressivism. Even if your own life is good, you still fall for all the c--p.