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Off-topic: what happens when men attempt to get in the way of female self-pity and self-actualization...

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/06/movies/nightbitch-amy-adams-marielle-heller.html

"After a recent screening, a man approached Adams to ask if she had considered making a movie about a father “who has to go to work and worries if he can support his family or not,” a query both she and Heller responded to with guffaws. Heller said she had fielded a similar question from another male viewer asking, “When do we get the husband’s movie?”

“Luckily I was too tired to be rageful,” Adams said.

Heller began collecting what she called “defensive male responses” from the anonymous test screenings conducted by her studio, Searchlight Pictures. “People would write: ‘I don’t like how it made it seem like it was the husband’s fault.’ or ‘I didn’t like how that made me feel,’” she said.

“I’m like, ‘Sorry, white male, 47.’”"

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On Bernstein's comment:

>The male breadwinner norm has become a kind of cultural anchor that keeps us going around in circles, returning again and again to the gender dynamics we have tried to leave behind.

Ideas from the manosphere may be leaking into the culture, but it seems to me that one subtle consequence of lower fertility is that it's easier than ever to overestimate the role of culture on sex differences due to fewer adults being around young children of both sexes, and everyone growing up with fewer siblings for comparison.

It's unclear if Bernstein has kids, but I'm thinking not.

She can go on about "cultural anchors", but nothing communicated to me that girls are different quite like our daughter, at age 1, with zero encouragement, lunging towards the girl toy aisle that her older brother had heretofore treated as invisible, giggling with delight.

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