I have seen what your commenter describes as men being pulled leftward by their wives. Two examples:
First, I moved in emergent/neo-anabaptist/somewhat progressive evangelical circles for around 20 years before leaving them in 2022. I helped to plant a church in 2010/2011 in which progressive leaning women had an outsized influence on the direction of the church. I think of one of our pastors in particular, whose theology was basically conservative but whose wife was very influenced by progressive voices like Rachel held Evans, Michael Gungor, Greg Boyd, and others. While the husband did not become a full-blown progressive, I feel like to a significant degree he was neutralized by both our churches ethos and his wife's divergent theological views. In general, I would say that most of the men of the church, with a couple of exceptions, were neutralized by their wives leftward lean.
A second, more pointed example, is of an acquaintance I know of, who was complementarian, but after marrying and egalitarian woman, embraced an egalitarian outlook.
I guess the question this brings up for me, as a 53 year old never married conservative Christian man, is "What do we do about this? Is it even possible to do anything about it?" For a variety of reasons, I currently feel like it might be better for me to remain unmarried and this is one of them. I still believe in marriage but it feels more and more like an unsafe and profoundly uncertain bet for Christian men.
BAP’s tweet seems to criticize all religions. There are thinkers frequently quoted by the Dissident Right that specifically criticize Christianity for its universality and egalitarianism. Matthew Rose’s book A World After Liberalism shows some of those thinkers: Spengler, Evola, Francis, etc.
I think there is appetite for some gambling regulation on both sides , the books are pretty centralized , could maybe impose default loss limits per customer of 5k or something , have to show tax return to increase your limit to x% of income
I’m not sure if that would make the biz model not work anymore though , pretty sad if it does
"Marriage had a big neutralising impact though on the guys. I can’t think of any women from that context who became more conservative via marriage but I can think of quite a few men who over time shifted their views to align with their wives."
This is interesting. Maybe it's because some of my friend groups formed around shared interests in economics and libertarian ideas that I have a biased sample, but I have only seen the opposite in terms of wives coming closer to husbands' views.
I just subscribed in part because of this post.
I have seen what your commenter describes as men being pulled leftward by their wives. Two examples:
First, I moved in emergent/neo-anabaptist/somewhat progressive evangelical circles for around 20 years before leaving them in 2022. I helped to plant a church in 2010/2011 in which progressive leaning women had an outsized influence on the direction of the church. I think of one of our pastors in particular, whose theology was basically conservative but whose wife was very influenced by progressive voices like Rachel held Evans, Michael Gungor, Greg Boyd, and others. While the husband did not become a full-blown progressive, I feel like to a significant degree he was neutralized by both our churches ethos and his wife's divergent theological views. In general, I would say that most of the men of the church, with a couple of exceptions, were neutralized by their wives leftward lean.
A second, more pointed example, is of an acquaintance I know of, who was complementarian, but after marrying and egalitarian woman, embraced an egalitarian outlook.
I guess the question this brings up for me, as a 53 year old never married conservative Christian man, is "What do we do about this? Is it even possible to do anything about it?" For a variety of reasons, I currently feel like it might be better for me to remain unmarried and this is one of them. I still believe in marriage but it feels more and more like an unsafe and profoundly uncertain bet for Christian men.
BAP’s tweet seems to criticize all religions. There are thinkers frequently quoted by the Dissident Right that specifically criticize Christianity for its universality and egalitarianism. Matthew Rose’s book A World After Liberalism shows some of those thinkers: Spengler, Evola, Francis, etc.
I think there is appetite for some gambling regulation on both sides , the books are pretty centralized , could maybe impose default loss limits per customer of 5k or something , have to show tax return to increase your limit to x% of income
I’m not sure if that would make the biz model not work anymore though , pretty sad if it does
"Marriage had a big neutralising impact though on the guys. I can’t think of any women from that context who became more conservative via marriage but I can think of quite a few men who over time shifted their views to align with their wives."
This is interesting. Maybe it's because some of my friend groups formed around shared interests in economics and libertarian ideas that I have a biased sample, but I have only seen the opposite in terms of wives coming closer to husbands' views.